“In a nutshell, self-compassion is treating ourselves with the same kindness, care, and understanding that we would offer to others when they suffer, fail, or feel inadequate.”
That helpful definition is by researcher, teacher and author Kristin Neff – see more below.
In this video, Danielle LaPorte talks about why “The best self-help is self-compassion” –
“When you give yourself credit for making it this far in life—and still being a Gentle Soul—then you’ll know the Truth of Love.
“When, in a courageously still moment you hear yourself say, “I have everything I need right now,” then you’ll know the Truth of Faith.
“And you’ll bring that shine to work with you. And to your causes, and your Loving, and your collaborations with the Universe.”
A profile on her site says:
Named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, millions of visitors go to DanielleLaPorte.com every month for her daily #Truthbombs and what’s been called “the best place online for kickass spirituality.”
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Self-Compassion author and researcher Kristin Neff says: “We often become our own worst critic because we believe it’s necessary to keep ourselves motivated.
“But the research shows that healthy self-compassion increases our inner drive, our resilience, and our ability to excel.
“Self-criticism does not build self-esteem by constantly measuring ourselves against everyone else.
“A strong sense of self-compassion is an essential ingredient for success.”
In an interview in the New York Times, writer Eric Barker notes “Dr. Kristin Neff, an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas, suggests a solution to the problem of overconfidence: self-compassion.”
“Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, care and concern you show a loved one,” Dr. Neff said.
“We need to frame it in terms of humanity. That’s what makes self-compassion so different: ‘I’m an imperfect human being living an imperfect life.’”
From Why Self-Compassion Beats Self-Confidence – Confidence may be overrated by Kristin Wong
A course on the Power of Self-Compassion
Chris Germer and Kristin Neff presented an “Eight-Week Training Program to Bring Kindness and Inner Strength to Any Moment of Your Life” from Oct 16 – Dec 4, 2017.
Here is some material from the course and the teachers:
Self-compassion researcher, teacher and author Kristin Neff, PhD notes in the longer video “Why Self-Compassion Is Important” that the ‘typical way’ of motivating ourselves is harsh self-criticism, but research shows this leads to a fear of failure, performance anxiety and other problems that can hold us back.
Dr. Neff says,
“We know through the research that when we’re very hard on ourselves when we make a mistake, or fail in some way, we start becoming afraid of failure, and we start developing performance anxiety.
“We don’t do as well so we fail more often, we start losing confidence in ourselves and therefore we’re more likely just to give up.”
In another video titled “You Are Worthy of Self-Compassion,” Chris Germer talks about his experiences with public speaking anxiety and self-compassion:
These brief clips are from a free video series with Chris Germer and Kristin Neff, related to their course The Power of Self-Compassion.
Sign up for the free Discover the Power of Self-Compassion video series.
About the course teachers:
Chris Germer, PhD, is “a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. A leader in the integration of mindfulness and psychotherapy, he is a founding faculty member of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy and a cofounder of the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion, Cambridge Health Alliance.
“Chris teaches programs internationally about mindfulness and compassion, and maintains a small psychotherapy practice in Arlington, Massachusetts.
He is author of books including The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions.
Kristin Neff, PhD, is “an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. A true pioneer in the field, over a decade ago she first identified self-compassion as a measurable trait, and now there are over a thousand published studies on the benefits of self-compassion.
“Kristin is a cofounder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, and gives talks and teaches workshops on self-compassion worldwide.”
Her titles include
From the course site:
WELCOME FROM KRISTIN NEFF & CHRIS GERMER
Have you ever marveled at how some people manage to bounce right back from challenges in their lives, keep an optimistic attitude, motivate themselves to achieve lofty goals, and stay healthy and happy?
Chances are, there’s a secret ingredient in their lives: self-compassion.
What, exactly, is it?
In a nutshell, self-compassion is treating ourselves with the same kindness, care, and understanding that we would offer to others when they suffer, fail, or feel inadequate.
Hundreds of studies are pointing to self-compassion as one of the most powerful resources for enhancing your emotional well-being. And while we all have this capacity within us, too often we neglect to strengthen and use it when we’re struggling.
Many first-time participants in our course are actually wary about being compassionate to themselves.
Why? Because we fear that being too kind to ourselves will make us weak or self-indulgent.
Or that we need to be “tough” on ourselves to stay motivated and reach our goals.
In fact, research shows it’s just the opposite:
Self-compassion turns out to be much more effective than self-criticism—for your success at work, health, personal relationships, and fulfillment of your aspirations.