“In a nutshell, self-compassion is treating ourselves with the same kindness, care, and understanding that we would offer to others when they suffer, fail, or feel inadequate.”
Researcher, teacher and author Kristin Neff specializes in how self-compassion benefits us.
Here is a short video related to one of her courses:
More Self-Compassion, More Well-Being
Related audio program:
Self-Compassion author and researcher Kristin Neff says:
“We often become our own worst critic because we believe it’s necessary to keep ourselves motivated.
“But the research shows that healthy self-compassion increases our inner drive, our resilience, and our ability to excel.
“Self-criticism does not build self-esteem by constantly measuring ourselves against everyone else.
“A strong sense of self-compassion is an essential ingredient for success.”
In an interview in the New York Times, writer Eric Barker notes “Dr. Kristin Neff, an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas, suggests a solution to the problem of overconfidence: self-compassion.”
“Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, care and concern you show a loved one,” Dr. Neff said.
“We need to frame it in terms of humanity. That’s what makes self-compassion so different: ‘I’m an imperfect human being living an imperfect life.’”
From Why Self-Compassion Beats Self-Confidence – Confidence may be overrated by Kristin Wong.
The Power of Self-Compassion
Chris Germer and Kristin Neff presented an “Eight-Week Training Program to Bring Kindness and Inner Strength to Any Moment of Your Life” in 2017.
Here is some material from the course and the teachers:
Self-compassion researcher, teacher and author Kristin Neff, PhD notes in the longer video “Why Self-Compassion Is Important” that the ‘typical way’ of motivating ourselves is harsh self-criticism, but research shows this leads to a fear of failure, performance anxiety and other problems that can hold us back.
Dr. Neff says,
“We know through the research that when we’re very hard on ourselves when we make a mistake, or fail in some way, we start becoming afraid of failure, and we start developing performance anxiety.
“We don’t do as well so we fail more often, we start losing confidence in ourselves and therefore we’re more likely just to give up.”
In another video titled “You Are Worthy of Self-Compassion,” Chris Germer talks about his experiences with public speaking anxiety and self-compassion:
These brief clips are from a free video series with Chris Germer and Kristin Neff, related to their course The Power of Self-Compassion. Get free video series:
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About the course teachers:
Chris Germer, PhD, is “a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. A leader in the integration of mindfulness and psychotherapy, he is a founding faculty member of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy and a cofounder of the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion, Cambridge Health Alliance.
“Chris teaches programs internationally about mindfulness and compassion, and maintains a small psychotherapy practice in Arlington, Massachusetts.
He is author of books including The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions.
Kristin Neff, PhD, is “an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. A true pioneer in the field, over a decade ago she first identified self-compassion as a measurable trait, and now there are over a thousand published studies on the benefits of self-compassion.
“Kristin is a cofounder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, and gives talks and teaches workshops on self-compassion worldwide.”
Her titles include:
From the course site:
WELCOME FROM KRISTIN NEFF & CHRIS GERMER
Have you ever marveled at how some people manage to bounce right back from challenges in their lives, keep an optimistic attitude, motivate themselves to achieve lofty goals, and stay healthy and happy?
Chances are, there’s a secret ingredient in their lives: self-compassion.
What, exactly, is it?
In a nutshell, self-compassion is treating ourselves with the same kindness, care, and understanding that we would offer to others when they suffer, fail, or feel inadequate.
Hundreds of studies are pointing to self-compassion as one of the most powerful resources for enhancing your emotional well-being. And while we all have this capacity within us, too often we neglect to strengthen and use it when we’re struggling.
Many first-time participants in our course are actually wary about being compassionate to themselves.
Why? Because we fear that being too kind to ourselves will make us weak or self-indulgent.
Or that we need to be “tough” on ourselves to stay motivated and reach our goals.
In fact, research shows it’s just the opposite:
Self-compassion turns out to be much more effective than self-criticism—for your success at work, health, personal relationships, and fulfillment of your aspirations.
Another program by Kristin Neff –
Gentle and Fierce — Two Sides of Self-Compassion That We All Need Now
A vast body of research shows that the skill of self-compassion can deeply calm and heal us.
But there’s also a fierce “momma bear” side of self-compassion. And all of us—especially women—need it more than ever.
In the face of a threatening or unjust situation, have you ever kept silent because you didn’t want to rock the boat or make things worse?
And then, did you wonder: “Next time, how can I become stronger and more effective?”
That’s the purpose of The Yin and Yang of Self-Compassion.
Kristin Neff, PhD, created this inspiring audio program to help you understand and build the two complementary aspects of this crucial skill…
Follow link to learn more.
Kristin Neff is one of the presenters at The Self-Acceptance Summit – follow link to article with videos about the program.